Lesson:

 

1. Video-3 min

   1. Briefly go over what the movie is about and explain the relevance

      1. In 1977, college graduates Harry Burns and Sally Albright share a contentious car ride from Chicago to New York, during which they argue about whether men and women can ever truly be strictly platonic friends. Ten years later, Harry and Sally meet again at a bookstore, and in the company of their respective best friends, Jess and Marie, attempt to stay friends without sex becoming an issue between them.

      2. When Harry Met Sally is not about how friendship can lead to love. It's about how friendship is a necessary ingredient for love. It depicts the need to find someone you can have conversations with that will lay you bare emotionally and make you bend over in laughter.

   2. Talk about how this movie shows that the key to a strong relationship is by establishing a friendship first. 

   3. Show a clip to the class

 

1. Objectives- 30 seconds 

   1. Students will be able to identify the keys to a successful marriage

   2. Students will be able to identify between a good and bad marriage

   3. Students will be able to simulate what they want to look for in a future spouse

 

1. What is marriage? (Lecture)- 2 min

   1. Start by asking the students how they would define marriage

      1. What is marriage to you?

      2. Throw out some words and loose definitions (write them on the board)

   2. Show the experts definition of marriage

   3. Spot similarities and differences

   4. Explain how there is not one specific definition. There are opinions with universal truths.

   5. “Marriage is an institution within which a couple live, not an ideal to which they aspire. The difference between an ideal and an institution is important. Marriage needs the security of being an institution with boundaries. Within this given order the relational dynamics can safely flourish” (Mahajan).

   6. “the state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law” (Merriam Webster)

   7.  “a legally and socially sanctioned union, usually between a man and a woman, that is regulated by laws, rules, customs, beliefs, and attitudes that prescribe the rights and duties of the partners and accords status to their offspring (if any)” (Brittanica).

 

1. Similarities and Differences-1 min 

   1. What are some similarities and differences between the expert’s definitions? 

   2. What are some keywords? 

   3. Point out the fact that there’s no love mentioned

 

1. Spouse Simulation-5 min

   1. 100 points

   2. Use them on key aspects

   3. All the examples 

   4. Compare your notes with each other

 

1. Wrap Up-3 min

   1. Briefly discuss what people came up with

   2. What were the same or different?

   3. Attractiveness, 

   4. Do you agree with the experts? Or do you have a dissenting opinion?

 

Materials:

 

• Powerpoint presentation

• Index Cards

• Video